This is too expensive, we can't afford it. "" It's not easy for Mom and Dad to earn money, you have to learn to save money "... This kind of educational practice is called" crying for poverty "and is a common educational method used by some parents. Experts remind that pure "crying poverty" education is like using children's fears to drive their growth, which may be effective in the short term, but may leave emotional damage in the long run. The opposite of the "crying poor style" is the "spoiling style" that completely avoids economic reality. Some parents are caught in the binary opposition between "crying poor" and "spoiling", or they become "playboys" or indulge excessively, unable to balance it well. In terms of dealing with their own environmental conditions, parents should not only be "reality guides" and teach their children to weigh their choices with real life, but also be "value lighters" to maintain their children's value determination in the material world in the future. The comedy movie 'Catch the Doll' portrays a wealthy figure crying poverty on children. The wealthy believed that the "big" (eldest son) had been living extravagantly since childhood, but ended up being "exhausted". After opening a new "small" (youngest son), they decided to take another extreme - to educate their children through hardships to make them strive for success. The process went very smoothly, and the child remained a top student with excellent academic performance until the college entrance examination. But after learning the truth, the child felt a sense of unreality about their more than ten years of life. This strong contrast undoubtedly greatly hurts the child's psychology. In this movie, there is a completely opposing binary relationship between "big" and "small", and this absurdity is an extreme manifestation of the two modes in current families. The concepts of "raising children in poverty and raising daughters in wealth" and "crying for poverty skills" are manifestations of simple and frugal ideas, but they also expose the mismatch between traditional frugal education concepts and the psychological development needs of contemporary children. When educators equate the transmission of "real pressure" with the shaping of "money values" and transform material restraint into spiritual suppression, this "simplified" frugal education clearly has serious problems. For children who have been exposed to negative economic implications for a long time, this is inappropriate economic education and may become an invisible shackle that locks in their dreams. In the process of children's growth, they should not avoid the real economic pressure, overindulge, or excessively exaggerate "suffering" and move towards "eating without hardship". As reality guides, parents should respond to their children's concerns based on the actual situation of the family, teach them to correctly view the wealth gap, guide them to face their family environment correctly, and not be luxurious or humble because of wealth. As value lighters, parents should lead by example, establish a correct view of money, and avoid various bad habits such as comparison, waste, and worship of money. In the process of economic education jointly built by home and school, a sense of scarcity should not be created, but a sense of gain should be cultivated; We should not emphasize 'cannot have', but should teach them 'how to have better'. When children can correctly understand the real power of money and see the value of life beyond materialism, education can truly fulfill the mission of Bacon's soul building. Educating children to be diligent, frugal, and frugal is a value that society should jointly uphold, and we must grasp the "degree" of it. Education should be integrated with practice, such as experiencing the hardships of parents' work through social practice, experiencing the joy of labor and gaining a sense of achievement, which far exceeds money itself. (New Society)